I came across a website dedicated to changing the stereotypes in the word “feminism” and it really intrigued me (see http://www.whoneedsfeminism.com/index.html). I grew up in this society that says that if you’re feminist then you must be a lesbian and an ass to all men. In reality, I am a feminist. I don’t usually come right out and say it because then people assume I am a lesbian, despite the fact that I am in a committed relationship with a male and have been for nearly 3 years. Same goes for my support in gay rights. I think that gays should have every right I do and that means that I “must be one of them”. I’m as straight as an arrow, I just think that we all should have the same rights.

I want to be a mom, but I also want to have a strong career in journalism. I want to get married, but I want to feel comfortable with my choice of leaving if he abuses me. My boyfriend’s mom has been with an ass for 20 years and he has verbally abused her through almost every moment. She says she is going to leave but then he convinces her that he’ll change so she gives in. I want to live in a world that we are all educated to know that once an abuser, always an abuser. 

Yes, I love fashion and I like to feel pretty. But that’s not because I’m trying to find a husband, it’s because it’s fun to experiment and it’s a way to show yourself. I’m not fitting into the female role, I’m fitting into my own role: which is to look cute and kick some serious ass doing it.

Prom is coming up and several schools in the area have started to lay down punishment for grinding at school dances. I think the habit these girls have gotten into of dancing this way is disgusting, but they seem to think that it’s not in any way demeaning them. Letting strange men push their junk against your ass is something that I think is horrible. We say we want people to stop blaming women for rapes, but you walk into a school dance and it already looks like the majority of these people are having sex. I think this is a form of leading men on, yes no means no so it is not completely the woman’s fault, men need to know the lines they cannot cross, but women need to make it a little harder for men to touch us in such a sexual way. 

You may frown at that last paragraph, but let’s face it, when a rapist can so easily get that close (and to me, intimate) to you then he will feel that you are an easier target. I step away the second a man comes up behind me who did not ask my permission (and received it) first. 

The society we live in needs to teach that feminism is simply letting women have the power to speak out, to earn the same amount of money, and to not be treated as sex objects. As a friend of mine says “You are a strong independent woman who does not need a man to complete you; but you have one anyway.”